The power of "Fuck it"

Do you care too much about every little damn thing, that you find yourself having an anxiety attack after you realized you forgot to send an email that really could wait another day. Then this is for you! So let's get started and repeat after me "FUCK IT!"( or "FUDGE IT! if you don't want to curse).

It so simple to say these words, but to actually not give a shit when things go wrong, is definitely easier said then done. However, just know that not everything is worth your mental energy to worry about. Also, whose got that kind of time!?

In a recent conversation with a friend of mine going through a time with a lot of changes, she asked me

"How did you deal with everything when you had to leave Arizona and your job?"

Back in May 2018, I went through a difficult time with 1) knowing I didn't have a future with my current job which I loved, 2) my relationship of 6 years was going to end, and 3) I was moving back to my home town which I left for a reason in the first place. I didn't like my community or really the people in it.

But with all that I responded to her question with "I just had a FUCK IT mentality".

I'm going to be honest, it wasn't easy at first. But I learned very quickly that being upset about what was happening at that moment wasn't going to make anything better. That's the first point I want to make:

The 10/90 rule is 100% true! It is not worth your time or emotional strain to worry about what is and what isn't. I cannot emphasize how important your time is. Your time is under your control to make anything and everything happen, but if you want fast results you better get shit done.

Also, do not waste your mental energy stressing over things that have already happened! Just don't. It happened, that's it. It's done! There is no point in clouding your brilliant mind with negative pointless "what if" thoughts.

However, that doesn't mean don't reflect on your past.Whether something happened in your control or not, it is important to break down what happened and come up with a solid plan to prevent it in the future. And if the same thing happens again, Fuck it, and go back to the drawing board. Now you know 2 paths not to take.

The best way we grow is not just from learning from others, but from our past selves and the failures we have.

Failure will happen, and that's okay!

Now I am far from expert on getting past life's issues (I repeat, I am not an expert!), but I have to say I know mine has gotten easier after I stopped crying about why things didn't go as planned. However, if you're curious as to how my brain works feel free to use my "Fuck it, and move on" model. Patent pending.

If you love this, feel free to use this even for small things, like when you mess up on a task given to you by your boss.

In the end just know everything happens for a reason, so fuck it and do better next time. Got it? Good!